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The Woman Who Shot Her Stalker – Update

Remember the story we told you about last fall about the woman who shot her stalker? Well as the late Paul Harvey would have said, here’s the rest of the story.

I thought I’d update my fellow redditors. The past few months have been a roller coaster for me. Since my last update, I’ve moved and started a new job I cherish and made amazing new friends. I now work in a firearm range that doubles as education hub for shooters of all experience levels and recently gained my cert. to become an NRA Range Safety officer.

I can’t even begin to describe how working in this environment has helped me. I get to be around like minded individuals AND help broaden people’s knowledge and understanding of firearms and safe handling while expanding my own. I’ve learned so much from the people that I work with and their positivity and support is what’s been the most helpful.

If I told you that what happened to me no longer affects me I would be dishonest. It does and it does so everyday. I still jump when I hear doorbells or someone knocking. No matter how much I try to shake it, it won’t leave. I have nightmares, more often than I’d like and become anxious when I’m home alone. I am more aware of my immediate surroundings, but I trust less and my small town mindset and naïveté has pretty much vanished. Even certain movies I used to like, I can no longer enjoy because of the subject matter.

A piece of me is forever hollowed by my experience but that part is slowly becoming overshadowed by the part of me that’s helping others to feel more confidently and assertive about not having to become someone’s victim themselves.

After multiple court resets and subpoenas the man who was stalking me made a deal and is scheduled to be sentenced on Feb.11. Initially, I didn’t want to speak at his sentencing, I just wanted to close this hideous chapter and get on with my life but now I feel like I need to.

I need the court to understand the severity of what this person did to me, I still fear the justice system falling under his spell and giving him leniency because he was shot. I need them to understand what it may feel like to have someone hunt you down and toy with you like their prey. Or how you can become accustomed to lodging a chair against your door routinely the same way you brush your teeth before bed. I need them to know that I am a real person and not just a name read off of a piece of paper.

I feel as though I am ready now to look him in the eye and have him swallow the fact that I am the one who put him there. No one saved me, but me. I am alive, I am here despite many threats against my life, and almost giving up myself. I laugh and smile everyday because I know there are others in similar situations who won’t have the chance to. I am so much stronger now because of it. Today, I am happy to report, life is good. So yeah, Ask me anything.

This is the story of a survivor, of a woman who acted honorably and defended innocent life. Here’s hoping the stalker gets the maximum sentence.

You can view the Reddit thread here.

3 Responses to The Woman Who Shot Her Stalker – Update

  1. Frank Sharpe January 4, 2015 at 5:49 pm #

    Most excellent.

  2. Erik January 5, 2015 at 12:12 pm #

    I don’t have a daughter
    If I did
    You would be her.

    Well done….. Your parents helped you to help yourself not be a victim

  3. Gina January 6, 2015 at 10:52 pm #

    I would like for you to know that you are not alone. No one can understand how being stalked and threatened with attack can affect you. To those who have never dealt with this, it can seem as if they feel you are overly dramatic. I am glad to hear that this person will be behind bars. For as long as he is there, you can live a normal life. I hope he never has the chance to do this again. Good bless you!