A woman who goes by the name “ItsMissesStealYoCat” on Imgur and Reddit has taken to the internet to tell her story.
Last Thursday, September 25, she asked her fellow redditors if anyone had success with private investigators – in the description of her question post, she provided the back story of her situation and why she need a PI:
For the past 6 months I have been relentlessly stalked and had threats against my life made from someone I dated for a month. It started with phone calls upwards of 45-50 a day, 50 page text messages and him showing up outside of my house at 5 am. When I wouldn’t not comply or feed the negative attention I began to receive threats, claims that he would murder me and get away with it, all he would have to do is flee the country. Telling me he shouldn’t have to force me to be his friend or give him another chance or else. Every time I blocked his number from contacting me, he would then call me from different ones, try and pretend to be other people or have his friends or sometimes even random strangers he’d ask on the street.
After about 2 months of that I was evicted from my apartment building due to my neighbors no longer feeling safe because of his looming presence. I then applied for and was granted a TPO, A few days afterwards I received a picture message of the note the [Sheriff] Civil had left on the door of my Stalkers-then residence with a message taunting me that “What you are trying to do was stupid and a restraining order is just a piece of paper.” So ultimately he just ended up avoiding the process server and simple as that, I was not being protected at all.
On 08/21/2014 I awoke around 8pm to vigorous knocking and ringing of my doorbell. I look out my window to see who it is and I was horrified to see my stalker there. I called the police and of coarse he fled once again (over 7 separate police reports filed). This incident was followed by threatening emails from my stalker demanding that I meet him somewhere or because he had found me that next time I would “wake up to gunshots” and that if I didn’t he would first “taser you and rape you in the ass using your boyfriends blood as lube.”
Clearly this guy wasn’t going away, and clearly he’s scum. The very next day, she posted an update on Imgur along with a photo:
I’m writing this staring at the mess the police left for me, in a bit of a fog. After 6 months of stalking and threats against my life my stalker finally snapped and decided to kick my door in and make good on his promise.
Out of fear, the past month I had begun sleeping with a chair propped against my front door, to give myself a few extra precious seconds in case of emergency. I shudder to think how differently things might’ve turned out had I not barricaded the door.
I awoke around 1:15 am to the sound of the door giving way after one kick followed by the sounds of my stalker struggling to dislodge the chair while forcing his way inside. I jumped up and grabbed the gun I’ve learned to do everything even shower with.
I stood at the top of my stairs and fired twice. Hitting him in the chest, I hear his scream, his disbelief that I’d stood up for myself.. 0 to 100 in milliseconds. I’ve never been so afraid in my life. I do not know if he is living, but I do know the police have him and that’s what helps the most.
For months of him evading the police I began to question whether he was unstoppable. Untraceable. Houdini, he would murder me and get away with it. As of now I’m in a haze of guilt, surprise, relief and disbelief. I shook as the canines drag him out from his hiding place under a bush. I survived, where so many people do not. Holy shit, I survived.
Since this IS the internet, a healthy bit a skepticism is always warranted, however, from the comments I found a link to this news story dated September 26 that seems to validate her story. While I don’t think it’s terribly wise to post about the incident when the police investigation is still underway, I think there are few things to be learned from what happened to this woman.
First off (and it pains me that this point isn’t perfectly clear to anyone with a pulse) there ARE bad people in the world that cannot be reasoned with. This woman went through hell for months trying to get away from this guy – she tried the police, moving, changing her phone number, a restraining order, etc, and none of it worked.
Second, let’s examine what DID work – she took responsibility for her safety and armed herself. She got a concealed carry permit, and training on how to use her handgun. And when faced with a violent home invasion, she rose to the occasion and did what had to be done.
To ItsMissesStealYoCat, whoever you are – you have nothing to be ashamed of or sorry for. You gave this guy every opportunity to go away, he chose not to. You defended your life in an honorable way, and whether they know it or not, the people in your community owe you a debt of gratitude.
To other women who are right now going through the exact same thing, please learn from this woman’s experience. Yes, talk to the police and get a restraining order. But at the end of the day, the police can’t be there to protect you 24/7. Arm yourself, get as much training as you can afford, and if your stalker tries to harm you or your loved ones, front sight high center mass, press until you see daylight.